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Open post [Feb. 15th, 2009|03:59 pm]
menstrual_cups moderators chatter


Hi all,

Talk about menstrual_cups here. Problems, tag requests, or anything else that's on your mind.

Actual discussion of cups belongs in the main community.

Anonymous comments are enabled. If you would like more privacy, we have an email listed in the userinfo.

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[User Picture]From: uathann
2010-09-25 07:31 pm (UTC)
Hi, I think this post: http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2382995.html

is the work of a troll/bot, and should be deleted. Sorry if you've seen it already. :)
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-09-25 07:56 pm (UTC)
We have now, thank you :)
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From: tellula
2010-10-01 05:45 am (UTC)
It would be nice to have a tag for cups and reusable pads that are for trade or for sale.
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[User Picture]From: startrekempress
2010-10-01 06:59 pm (UTC)
Just pointing out that "alphabetical" is misspelled in the sidebar, where it says "alphabetial tag list". :)
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[User Picture]From: katrina_splat
2010-10-10 04:12 pm (UTC)
Hey, I'm sure you'll get to it ASAP anyway but I thought I'd point out this post - http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2398396.html is getting a few comments from members who feel slightly attacked by the OP. I think a bit of modly intervention could help level things out. Thanks!
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-10 04:17 pm (UTC)
Sigh, I knew that couldn't go anywhere good. Last time I looked it was fine though.

Thanks, we'll keep an eye on it.
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From: edith_the_elf
2010-10-16 05:58 am (UTC)


I know you have said that you don't want people questioning whether mrsonyxorb is a troll - so I won't do that. But I would like to draw your attention to some nasty, vicious and cruel threads that mrsonyxorb has instigated/perpetuated.

Have a scroll through the links here and see what you think:



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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-10-16 06:59 am (UTC)

Re: mrsonyxorb

She has been banned from the community until further notice, so it's kind of a moot point. :)
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From: edith_the_elf
2010-10-17 02:07 am (UTC)

rape survivors and cup use

I'm just wondering about the appropriateness of asking about this on the forum.

I am an avid cup fan, and have been trying to spread the news to my friends (managed to get three to buy them already - win!).

One friend in particular is very interested, but she has problems inserting anything into her vagina (tampons are almost impossible...pap smears are a nightmare) as a result of a traumatic rape about five years ago. I am wondering if there is already a post about this issue, and whether cups just might not be suitable for her at all. She's hesitant to invest in the outlay cost without knowing for sure. Any advice would be great.

Also, whilst I have been a long-time reader of this forum, I've only recently started commenting...I worry that perhaps my lack of familiarity with the other commenters might prove to be some sort of barrier in asking about this sensitive issue.

Thanks so much for your help.
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-10-17 02:10 am (UTC)

Re: rape survivors and cup use

From a moderation/rules perspective, I don't think it should be a problem.

Although you're right, it might be a bit sensitive. Were it me, I'd probably put it behind a cut with suitable warnings for people who might be troubled to read about it. And obviously treating your friend's problems with respect, although judging by the fact that you dropped by and asked if it would be okay, I have a feeling that won't be a problem here! ;)
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[User Picture]From: saraf3m
2010-10-17 08:23 am (UTC)

Just a Thanx

I've seen many a discussion of sensitive nature on the boards, especially these last few weeks.

Just wanted to say I appreciate the posts remaining for informational purposes, but more importantly the setting of tone as discussion continues. Information, support, and kind words go a long way. I've "felt" some of the more recent posts a little strongly.

I find the community as a whole extremely supportive and encouraging, but just wanted to send a special thanx to the mods for keeping it "safe"
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-17 09:38 am (UTC)

Re: Just a Thanx

Thank you, we appreciate it.
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[User Picture]From: m03m
2010-10-18 01:30 pm (UTC)

Regarding gendered words

If you are going to discourage usage of words like women and ladies, then please consider doing the same with the word guys. Statistically, the change that someone reading this comm is a guy is a whole lot smaller than that s/he is a woman.
Meaning that if I call comm users women, I'll be right most of the time, and if I call them guys, I'll be wrong most of the time.
Since you seem to be eager to avoid anyone being wrongly addressed, which is something I respect even if I don't fully grok it, it seems like another word to avoid.

I know that some/most Americans use that word in an ungendered way, but then not all of us are Americans.
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-18 03:38 pm (UTC)

Re: Regarding gendered words

For the record, neither lintilla nor I are American. And lintilla, feel free to jump in :)

I think comparing 'guys' and 'ladies' is a bit apples and oranges. Firstly because of the terms themselves - 'women' and 'ladies' are a lot more strongly gendered than 'guys', which as you say is often used pretty much neutrally when referring to groups of people. Personally I would be ecstatic if it became as normal to address a mixed group of people as 'ladies' as it is to use 'guys'! But as it is, they're not really equivalents.

Secondly is what you've said - that there are by far more women than men or other non-female identified people in menstrual_cups. We're a community about menstrual products. No one, when addressing menstrual_cups, actually thinks they are addressing a cosy boy's club - they're pretty evidently using the word in a way that does include women. Whereas using terms like 'girls' and 'ladies' when addressing the whole community very much gives the impression of a women-only space. So the term 'guys' doesn't really exclude people in the same way 'ladies' does.

It's a very nuanced/contextual thing. If I was running a community where it was plausible that people had actually erroneously assumed that everyone in it would be male, e.g. one about computer programming, I might well want to ensure that even slightly male-gendered words weren't used, to keep female community members visible. In menstrual_cups though, I don't think the use of the term 'guys' puts women off participating or makes them feel unwelcome or forgotten, the way 'ladies' does for trans and genderqueer people.

I hope that makes sense?

I do think the fact that 'guys' is used both as a gender neutral term and as a male-gendered one is an important feminist language debate, relating to how in most contexts 'male' is the default gender, how it's seen as insulting to be feminised, etc. It's a topic I'm very interested in. But it's not something I personally feel is an inclusivity issue in menstrual_cups.

All that said, if you have objections to the word 'guys', you are more than welcome to bring them up when posters use it. So long as you do it in a polite way, which I'm sure you would.

BTW I just wandered over to your profile, and Thinkpad high-five! I have three :D
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[User Picture]From: tezliana
2010-10-19 08:46 pm (UTC)
Viagra spam just posted to the community:

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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-19 08:56 pm (UTC)
Haha. Got it :D
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-11-14 06:52 am (UTC)
I just wanted to thank you for making the recent mod. post on gender-neutral language. I'm transmasculine but have separate accounts for use on women's health-related communities and trans* communities, and I've definitely wanted to recommend cups a few times in trans* communities on my primary account, but was unsure if I should refer folks to menstrual_cups due to sensitivity about language; it's a shame because I think cups can do a lot to make menstruation easier to handle for FTM and transmasculine folks. I no longer have that worry since I assume that future posts addressing all members as "ladies" will be followed up by a quick mention of this request and hopefully an edit. I'll be sure to pass on info about this community to fellow FTM or non-binary identified FAAB folks when it comes up!
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-11-14 09:05 am (UTC)
Thank you, I'm glad to hear that it helps. Please do let us know if there's anything else we can do.

Asking people to edit has s been our approach for a while, but as you probably noticed there was a recent spate of posts addressing the community as 'ladies' or 'women', so we thought it was better dealt with in a central post. And we'll be able to link to it when making these requests in the future, which is good.
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[User Picture]From: m03m
2010-11-14 09:24 pm (UTC)
If you're going to freeze the thread, then don't ask me questions. It's not very nice being asked questions and not being allowed to answer them. :-(
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[User Picture]From: m03m
2010-11-14 09:26 pm (UTC)
And don't bother thanking me for understanding. I'm not understanding much of this at all.
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-11-16 11:21 pm (UTC)
Hi! I work for GladRags and we love the menstrual cups community on LiveJournal. I wanted to let you know that we've changed our shipping policy on GladRags.com so now all menstrual cups ship for free! Please share this info with the community if you feel it's appropriate :)

- Tracy
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[User Picture]From: indigo_snow
2010-11-19 09:01 pm (UTC)

[Moral Lectures and Angry Messages From Members]

While I understand your concerns, I'm beginning to feel quite unwelcome here myself. I've gotten numerous emails and private facebook messages from members of this community who wish for me to leave.

You obviously aren't fond of me either considering that for every comment I've left these past few days, I'll find a message below it saying "Don't say that/don't do that/you said something that I don't agree with". I feel it would be in my best interest to leave the community and find another that doesn't lecture or try to impose their beliefs onto other members. Becoming upset over someone using the words "girl" and/or "woman" in a menstrual community seems completely absurd to me.

As much as it pains me to leave (I've been a member for almost 8 months now), I can't deal with the angry messages, stress, and moral lectures from people who think they are "making a point".

Being part of this community was nice while it lasted. I met many new friends here (most whom don't even want to speak to me anymore), and learned a lot of valuable tricks and tips here.

Thanks but no thanks, time for me to move on.

Judging by all the hate mail in my Facebook inbox, I know I will not be missed.


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[User Picture]From: m03m
2010-11-19 09:15 pm (UTC)

Re: [Moral Lectures and Angry Messages From Members]

Wow. I'm so sorry you got angry messages. That's not a good way to discuss the topic at hand, at all. :-(
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-11-21 05:08 am (UTC)

Teen tag?

I think a teen tag should be added! There are many repetitive teen-related posts.Questions could be answered easier for teen members if there was a teen tag.

Please consider it! I would love to tag old posts!
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-11-21 05:45 am (UTC)

Re: Teen tag?

We've got an "age" tag right now - most of the posts in there end up being about teens anyway.
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