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Open post [Feb. 15th, 2009|03:59 pm]
menstrual_cups moderators chatter

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[scien]
Hi all,

Talk about menstrual_cups here. Problems, tag requests, or anything else that's on your mind.

Actual discussion of cups belongs in the main community.

Anonymous comments are enabled. If you would like more privacy, we have an email listed in the userinfo.
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-04-21 04:01 am (UTC)

Cup Addict

I would like to request a "cup addicts", "multiple cups owners", or "cup collections" tag for people who have different brands.
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[User Picture]From: surethingbuddy
2010-04-23 10:04 pm (UTC)

tag suggestion

I think there should be a "sales" or some such tag for posts where people are selling cups.
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From: nurserain
2010-04-26 07:01 am (UTC)

Residual Slobber

Hi, my first post on menstrual cups. I absolutely love mine, but am having issues with residual slobber and would love some genius tips or tricks that help with that... maybe it could be a tag? Maybe someone has some fantastic advice? All would be greatly appreciated.
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-04-26 07:26 am (UTC)

Re: Residual Slobber

You may have some more luck if you post this to menstrual_cups. Also, have a look at the leakage & spotting tag.
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[User Picture]From: _merricat_
2010-04-27 03:06 pm (UTC)
I think alicetwain is out of line, yet you did not reprimand her, or remove her comment which was inaccurate information about the birth control pill. You also reprimanded another member of this community in the same thread. I find that hypocritical.
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-04-28 06:48 am (UTC)
I did in fact reprimand her - here. As a general rule, we don't remove comments unless they are blatantly abusive or spam.
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From: newlunetteuser
2010-05-09 02:46 am (UTC)

Questions

How do I post in the menstraul cups community? I am a new used and have a question-please help!

Thanks!
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-05-09 03:24 am (UTC)

Re: Questions

Step one: Join the menstrual_cups community if you have not done so already.
Step two: Make an entry on the community as described here.

Hope that helps!
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-05-23 07:58 am (UTC)
It's looking like there's a lot more drama on this post than is really necessary, including combating commenters and badgering the OP on her choices of birth control

http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2205236.html
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[User Picture]From: loucheena
2010-05-31 09:01 pm (UTC)

screened comment?

Hi, I posted a comment on this post: http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2217639.html
and it was screened. So I was wondering why's it screened, and how do I unscreen it?
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-05-31 10:22 pm (UTC)

Re: screened comment?

I don't see any screened comments on that post. I'm afraid I'm not sure what happened.
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[User Picture]From: who9
2010-06-11 01:11 am (UTC)

missing post

hello

A few hours ago I sent a post about a diva cup for sale. Everything seemed fine after I created and submitted the post. Now I can't find my post on the site. Any idea what could have happened? Should I try to re-post? Should I just wait longer? Thanks in advance for your advice.
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-06-11 06:49 am (UTC)

Re: missing post

I can see it here - http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2232432.html

It's marked as friends only, though. If you're not logged in to LiveJournal or somehow accidentally quit the community, you wouldn't be able to see it.

Also if you could put the second and third pictures under an LJ cut, that would be awesome. :)
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From: house_head
2010-07-07 05:47 am (UTC)

Tag suggestion

I have been reading for a few months, but I joined today to suggest a tag - how about a 'diagrams' tag? Or maybe diagrams and pictures?
I was looking for a diagram with detail of the cervix, which I know people had posted links to, but I couldn't find it, even with I searched with the cervix position tag.
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-07-07 07:18 am (UTC)

Re: Tag suggestion

Oh, but we do! Here.
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[User Picture]From: elizabby
2010-07-11 01:56 am (UTC)

New users posting advice

I've been on this board and using cups for about four years, and I've only recently noticed this, but I've seen some *very* new members offering advice. Given the learning curve of cups, the advice given by someone who has only ever done a dry run or one cycle is limited at best and can be misinformation at the worst.

One recent example I saw was a first time user asking if her Divacup was too short and did she need a longer cup because she was having trouble getting it out. Nothing wrong with that. But then another new user was the first to respond telling her that *yes* her cup was too short - IMO, wrong and unhelpful advice. Not malicious, but due to inexperience on the part of the responder.

I wonder if it might be worth putting in the community info a recommendation that new users wait until they've had at least three full cycles using their cups before they offer technical advice to others? Or whatever wait time you think reasonable? This might not even need to be enforced most of the time, but would give the mods some leverage if people are offering totally inappropriate advice to newbies.

Just a thought for your consideration.
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-07-31 12:19 am (UTC)

traffic to this site

Hi!

I am wondering if you can tell me how many visits, members, or comments have been left on this site?

I am working for a reproductive health non-profit and we are investigating the popularity of the menstrual cup in effort to promote it at our clinics. We are trying to get a sense of how many women use it/are talking about it online.

Thanks!

Jessica
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-07-31 12:32 am (UTC)

Re: traffic to this site

Far as I know, we don't have any counters or anything like that to count hits. However, there are 5823 people who are currently a member of menstrual_cups (as you can see here). We've probably got many more lurkers than that, too.
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[User Picture]From: m03m
2010-08-31 08:48 am (UTC)
I don't think the FAQ tag has much business being on this post:
http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2354569.html

The poster probably didn't realise that the tag would make the entry appear in the FAQs.
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-08-31 11:09 am (UTC)
Right you are! She actually went a bit tag-happy on that one (with a logic I can't quite figure out)...
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-09-06 02:18 am (UTC)
A trade/ sell tag would be great for members of the community who are looking to swap cups---easier than searching through each of the other tags :D
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-09-07 03:06 am (UTC)
We've considered this, but I've noticed that every time I see an entry about trading/swapping/selling cups, it's already sold/swapped before I could tag it... so I'm not sure how useful it would be.
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-09-24 08:51 pm (UTC)
Thought you ladies would appreciate this little tale (http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2382187.html)

Do you have a rule like vaginapagina to not use "ladies" or any term excluding members of the community?
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-09-24 11:02 pm (UTC)
We don't have many hard and fast rules along those lines, but we do strongly discourage the word for that reason.

My eyes skipped right past that one this morning - thanks for pointing it out. :)
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-09-25 07:56 pm (UTC)
Got it, thanks!
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[User Picture]From: uathann
2010-09-25 07:31 pm (UTC)
Hi, I think this post: http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2382995.html

is the work of a troll/bot, and should be deleted. Sorry if you've seen it already. :)
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-09-25 07:56 pm (UTC)
We have now, thank you :)
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From: tellula
2010-10-01 05:45 am (UTC)
It would be nice to have a tag for cups and reusable pads that are for trade or for sale.
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[User Picture]From: startrekempress
2010-10-01 06:59 pm (UTC)
Just pointing out that "alphabetical" is misspelled in the sidebar, where it says "alphabetial tag list". :)
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[User Picture]From: katrina_splat
2010-10-10 04:12 pm (UTC)
Hey, I'm sure you'll get to it ASAP anyway but I thought I'd point out this post - http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2398396.html is getting a few comments from members who feel slightly attacked by the OP. I think a bit of modly intervention could help level things out. Thanks!
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-10 04:17 pm (UTC)
Sigh, I knew that couldn't go anywhere good. Last time I looked it was fine though.

Thanks, we'll keep an eye on it.
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From: edith_the_elf
2010-10-16 05:58 am (UTC)

mrsonyxorb

I know you have said that you don't want people questioning whether mrsonyxorb is a troll - so I won't do that. But I would like to draw your attention to some nasty, vicious and cruel threads that mrsonyxorb has instigated/perpetuated.

Have a scroll through the links here and see what you think:

http://community.livejournal.com/stupid_free/217648.html

http://community.livejournal.com/thequestionclub/15870948.html?thread=280760292#t280760292

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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-10-16 06:59 am (UTC)

Re: mrsonyxorb

She has been banned from the community until further notice, so it's kind of a moot point. :)
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From: edith_the_elf
2010-10-17 02:07 am (UTC)

rape survivors and cup use

I'm just wondering about the appropriateness of asking about this on the forum.

I am an avid cup fan, and have been trying to spread the news to my friends (managed to get three to buy them already - win!).

One friend in particular is very interested, but she has problems inserting anything into her vagina (tampons are almost impossible...pap smears are a nightmare) as a result of a traumatic rape about five years ago. I am wondering if there is already a post about this issue, and whether cups just might not be suitable for her at all. She's hesitant to invest in the outlay cost without knowing for sure. Any advice would be great.

Also, whilst I have been a long-time reader of this forum, I've only recently started commenting...I worry that perhaps my lack of familiarity with the other commenters might prove to be some sort of barrier in asking about this sensitive issue.

Thanks so much for your help.
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[User Picture]From: lintilla
2010-10-17 02:10 am (UTC)

Re: rape survivors and cup use

From a moderation/rules perspective, I don't think it should be a problem.

Although you're right, it might be a bit sensitive. Were it me, I'd probably put it behind a cut with suitable warnings for people who might be troubled to read about it. And obviously treating your friend's problems with respect, although judging by the fact that you dropped by and asked if it would be okay, I have a feeling that won't be a problem here! ;)
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[User Picture]From: saraf3m
2010-10-17 08:23 am (UTC)

Just a Thanx

I've seen many a discussion of sensitive nature on the boards, especially these last few weeks.

Just wanted to say I appreciate the posts remaining for informational purposes, but more importantly the setting of tone as discussion continues. Information, support, and kind words go a long way. I've "felt" some of the more recent posts a little strongly.

I find the community as a whole extremely supportive and encouraging, but just wanted to send a special thanx to the mods for keeping it "safe"
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-17 09:38 am (UTC)

Re: Just a Thanx

Thank you, we appreciate it.
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[User Picture]From: m03m
2010-10-18 01:30 pm (UTC)

Regarding gendered words

If you are going to discourage usage of words like women and ladies, then please consider doing the same with the word guys. Statistically, the change that someone reading this comm is a guy is a whole lot smaller than that s/he is a woman.
Meaning that if I call comm users women, I'll be right most of the time, and if I call them guys, I'll be wrong most of the time.
Since you seem to be eager to avoid anyone being wrongly addressed, which is something I respect even if I don't fully grok it, it seems like another word to avoid.

I know that some/most Americans use that word in an ungendered way, but then not all of us are Americans.
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-18 03:38 pm (UTC)

Re: Regarding gendered words

For the record, neither lintilla nor I are American. And lintilla, feel free to jump in :)

I think comparing 'guys' and 'ladies' is a bit apples and oranges. Firstly because of the terms themselves - 'women' and 'ladies' are a lot more strongly gendered than 'guys', which as you say is often used pretty much neutrally when referring to groups of people. Personally I would be ecstatic if it became as normal to address a mixed group of people as 'ladies' as it is to use 'guys'! But as it is, they're not really equivalents.

Secondly is what you've said - that there are by far more women than men or other non-female identified people in menstrual_cups. We're a community about menstrual products. No one, when addressing menstrual_cups, actually thinks they are addressing a cosy boy's club - they're pretty evidently using the word in a way that does include women. Whereas using terms like 'girls' and 'ladies' when addressing the whole community very much gives the impression of a women-only space. So the term 'guys' doesn't really exclude people in the same way 'ladies' does.

It's a very nuanced/contextual thing. If I was running a community where it was plausible that people had actually erroneously assumed that everyone in it would be male, e.g. one about computer programming, I might well want to ensure that even slightly male-gendered words weren't used, to keep female community members visible. In menstrual_cups though, I don't think the use of the term 'guys' puts women off participating or makes them feel unwelcome or forgotten, the way 'ladies' does for trans and genderqueer people.

I hope that makes sense?

I do think the fact that 'guys' is used both as a gender neutral term and as a male-gendered one is an important feminist language debate, relating to how in most contexts 'male' is the default gender, how it's seen as insulting to be feminised, etc. It's a topic I'm very interested in. But it's not something I personally feel is an inclusivity issue in menstrual_cups.

All that said, if you have objections to the word 'guys', you are more than welcome to bring them up when posters use it. So long as you do it in a polite way, which I'm sure you would.

BTW I just wandered over to your profile, and Thinkpad high-five! I have three :D
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[User Picture]From: tezliana
2010-10-19 08:46 pm (UTC)
Viagra spam just posted to the community:

http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2411362.html
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-10-19 08:56 pm (UTC)
Haha. Got it :D
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From: (Anonymous)
2010-11-14 06:52 am (UTC)
I just wanted to thank you for making the recent mod. post on gender-neutral language. I'm transmasculine but have separate accounts for use on women's health-related communities and trans* communities, and I've definitely wanted to recommend cups a few times in trans* communities on my primary account, but was unsure if I should refer folks to menstrual_cups due to sensitivity about language; it's a shame because I think cups can do a lot to make menstruation easier to handle for FTM and transmasculine folks. I no longer have that worry since I assume that future posts addressing all members as "ladies" will be followed up by a quick mention of this request and hopefully an edit. I'll be sure to pass on info about this community to fellow FTM or non-binary identified FAAB folks when it comes up!
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[User Picture]From: scien
2010-11-14 09:05 am (UTC)
Thank you, I'm glad to hear that it helps. Please do let us know if there's anything else we can do.

Asking people to edit has s been our approach for a while, but as you probably noticed there was a recent spate of posts addressing the community as 'ladies' or 'women', so we thought it was better dealt with in a central post. And we'll be able to link to it when making these requests in the future, which is good.
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